Thank you for calling last night. I enjoyed hearing from you and felt completely blessed by the conversation that we had.
You might be wondering what was so special about our conversation--it was just a normal conversation between a son and his mom. Well, let me just emphasize the word normal-it was a conversation about your day, how you were feeling and what you had done throughout the day. Gone was the urgency of looking for money or talking of ways to avoid a crisis. There was no drama in our conversation, I felt no fear. It was just a phone call between two people who were simply "catching up."
I can't tell you how long it has been since we had such a conversation. I am so thankful for the peace that I felt as I was listening to you son. So many circumstances have been weighing heavily on our relationship for such a long time. I look forward to so many more conversations--just like ours last night....in the future.
I am so proud of your strength and your courage. I am so proud of your resolution to stay at New Seasons because I know how much you did not want to do it. I know it is hard being there....particularly on this day, your 25th birthday. I feel sad that we won't be together for your birthday, son. But I am going to practice a little Cognitive Behavorial Therapy myself--and instead of letting that sadness take over, I am going to adjust any possibility of distorted thinking. Instead of focusing on my sadness, I am going to tell you just how glad I feel!
I am glad:
--that you are in a safe environment with people who will help you.
--that you are moving through a program that has proven to help so
many others get better.
--that you have given yourself this time to learn, to grow and to heal.
--that you are our son, so loving, so handsome, so smart and so
courageous! You are such a gift to our family and we are so happy
that you have taken this opportunity to find out about yourself. To
find out about your brain, your "heart" and your dreams. Your
goals will be reached, son...we know you can do it!
This Cognitive Behavorial Therapy works! I already feel so much better! I pray that you will discover the same thing throughout the coming days. What a gift--what a great birthday gift that will truly be!
Happy Birthday son! We love you! Your mom and your dad
P.S. I owe you a spaghetti dinner :)